I am so happy that you are reading this because it means that,
like me, you also value kindness!
So, welcome to the Sharing Kindness Tribe! I'm Tess and these are my two kids - Sienna and Scarlett
(we are a kind family from Sweden living in Australia)!
Why do I feel so strongly about kindness, you might ask?
Well 5 years ago, I became a mother of two girls and, wow, how everything changed! I totally lost myself to motherhood… and had so many thoughts running through my mind…
“How can I teach my kids to be confident when I don’t feel confident in myself?
How do I teach them to be resilient and confident but still humble and compassionate?
And how do I raise them to value themselves yet still be kind to others?
I don’t know if you’ve ever felt the same??
But after having my children and being so far away from my family (being Swedish and living in Australia..),
my identity got somehow lost in motherhood. Suddenly, I had no idea who I was anymore.
I was crumbling inside
People would often describe me as outgoing and confident.
But what most of them couldn’t see was that, inside, I deeply struggled with self-worth.
The honest truth is that I had never felt that being me was enough. I had spent my life trying to be ‘perfect’, helping others and being kind and compassionate with everyone but myself. Friends and family could tell me I was intelligent, funny or even beautiful, but I never really believed them. I would look around and find 10 girls that I thought were smarter or prettier than me. And if I wasn’t the best, I didn’t think I mattered at all.
So, there it is, I raise my hand and admit it, I’m a PLEASER and a PERFECTIONIST.
How do we do that?
By rooting these stories in kindness, resilience, and self-worth.
It makes all the difference! How do I know?
Because, I set out to research how to raise a confident child and I came across
the concept of AFFIRMATIONS....
At first, I admit, I thought it was all nonsense. But the more I looked into it, the more I found evidence based research (being a nurse and all, this really was a thing I needed to find) and testimonies of people who found them extremely beneficial and even life changing.
I had nothing to lose, so I tried them.
Well… you can probably guess the outcome, right? 😉
But do you want the honest truth???
It worked better than I could have possibly imagined - for them as well as for me!
They even used them to teach me a lesson or two!
For instance, not long ago, when my husband and I were having an argument -- as parents sometimes do – Sienna, my 4-year-old daughter, tiptoed into the room and reminded me of something she had learned. “Mamma,” she whispered, “when we’re angry, you know your kind heart will calm you down.’
My heart melted! I cried, realising this was the text from the card she likes the most. I can already see how my kids’ personal stories are changing for the better.
And I was so proud of how she even managed to put the meaning of those words into context in such a compassionate and kind way!
I realised I had a mission
So, that’s how I suddenly realised that I had a mission. I had to spread this type of self-kindness so that other families out there can benefit from it too.
But there was a problem: most affirmations out there use complicated language or concepts that just don’t resonate with kids.
So, I decided to create my own affirmation cards with simple yet powerful story elements, language, and emotionally aware characters my kids could get invested in. I also wanted to create an emotionally aware space for children to learn about their emotions and to empower them with skills to feel safe to talk about how they feel by learning through characters doing the same.
Fast forward one year it’s taken me to create this one-of-a-kind Box of Confidence for kids. And for the first time in my life I am genuinely proud of something I have created.
There’s no going back
I love to see them thriving. And I am constantly benefitting from them too. I really found that I need these words as much as my kids do (or maybe even more…)
And whether you’re new to the world of affirmations or mindfulness or if you have used them for a while, you will find that once you welcome that kind of positivity to your life, there’s no going back.
I can vouch for that.
Seeing how well this has worked for my family, my mission is to empower kids for a kinder tomorrow by giving parents the tools to feel confident in themselves to create a positive mindset for your children. I want to help kids approach their problems and emotions with compassion, treat themselves and others with kindness, feel a strong sense of self-worth, and become resilient in a world that doesn’t always serve their best interests.
If I can help one family create positive personal stories that would help them achieve this vision, I will consider my work a huge success.
Remember, kindness starts within and we best give from a wholehearted heart. By introducing one simple habit you are shaping kinder and more confident and resilient kids!